Sometimes gathering with family over the holidays involves seeing your lover go off in another direction to join with their kin. Kinda puts a damper on the joy you so desperately want to feel. It’s not easy, but if you find yourself in that situation, it may help to use the time apart to consider ways in which your relationship can benefit from meaningful change. It’s not about dictating how your lover needs to make improvements; it begins with you. If you’re lighting candles on a Christmas tree, direct that light inwards to find your peace – then pass it on.